The strength of a carer
For Serena Baker, Medical Imaging Clerical Manager at Nepean Blue Mountains Local Health District, caring has never been just a responsibility, it has been a defining part of her life.
At just 26 years old, Serena stepped into the role of carer when her father was diagnosed with cancer. What followed was a 20-year journey, as she cared for both her father and mother through multiple diagnoses, treatments, and life-altering health events.
“I never hesitated. When my parents needed me, I was there because I love them,” says Serena.
Over the years, Serena’s father battled prostate, lung, laryngeal, and even breast cancer, while her mother suffered a stroke. At the same time, Serena was raising a young family of her own, juggling hospital visits, medication schedules, meal preparation, emotional support and trying to maintain a sense of normalcy for her daughter and husband.
“There were nights I stayed at my parents’ house because I was too worried to leave them. It was 24/7 care. You run on autopilot and it’s easy to lose yourself,” says Serena.
Serena’s story echoes the theme of this year’s National Carers Week: You are one, know one, or will be one. It’s a reminder that caring touches all of us and carers often carry an invisible load.
“There’s not enough awareness of the toll it takes physically, mentally, and financially. I couldn’t work during that time so there was no sick leave or super contributions. I didn’t get any breaks,” says Serena.
Despite the challenges, Serena never saw her role as a burden.
“It was out of love. They raised me and it was my turn to take on the caring role.”
Two years ago, Serena’s father passed away. More recently, she made the difficult decision to place her mother into permanent care.
“I had to think about myself and my family. It’s been one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made,” says Serena.
Even now, Serena continues to advocate for her mother and manage her care.
“I still carry the mental load. I’m still her advocate, her guardian. That doesn’t stop.”
Throughout her journey, Serena found strength in her husband and daughter, who supported her through the most challenging times. She also emphasises the importance of community support and the need for more of it.
She hopes to see greater access to peer support groups, legal guidance, and mental health services for carers themselves.
When asked what she’s learned, Serena reflects on her resilience.
“I’ve learned how strong I really am. You don’t think you can do it until you must. And it comes from a place of love,” says Serena.
This Carers Week, Serena shares her story in the hope that others feel seen, supported, and less alone.
“If someone reads this and thinks, ‘That’s my story too,’ then it’s worth it.”
A range of resources are available to support carers, and to make things easier for you when someone you care for needs to access our health care services. For more information, visit: https://www.nsw.gov.au/departments-and-agencies/nbmlhd/patients-carers-visitors/information-for-carers-nepean-blue-mountains